Tuesday, January 4, 2011

I Don't Wanna Be a "Marlin".... Or Maybe I Do!

Uhmm, Marlin... you know, Nemo's uber protective dad?

A couple of months back I went out with 2 of my girlfriends and we tagged along each others' tots. One has a 4 yr old, the other one has a 2 yr old and mine's 20 month old back then. 

After dinner, we took the kids to the play area right in front of the bookstore. I am ashamed to admit that it was the first time I took my daughter to a "public" play area that has a lot of kids playing at the same time. We normally bring her to the park when there's literally nobody else is playing except us. I have this annoying mindset that she's going to pick up germs and get sick afterwards (which of course was realized the following day but that's a separate story).

Anyways, throughout the time we were there, I found myself always running after my daughter making sure that she's safe and that the bigger kids wouldn't knock her off. I made her play on her own however I was always beside her while my girlfriends were telling stories and catching up. They were just fine with their kids running around on their own while I was super scared that my baby could get hurt and such, etc etc. I wish I have the "courage" to let go and do the same.

I asked my husband that night if I'm being over protective of the kiddo. I totally think I am. At her age (she's 22 months old now), she never get to try eating candies just yet, whole grapes, roasted peanuts, etc that I feel could make her choke. I finally was able to give her corn in a cob a few weeks ago. But everything else like fruits, vegetables, chicken drumsticks, I always cut them to the size I knew it would be safe for her to swallow.
 
I don't want to be over protective of her because from the get go I always wanted to raise her to be an independent, street smart kid as she can be. Stuff like if somebody tries to hurt her, she's not going to shy away but instead she would stand up on her own... that if she'd find herself with a flat tire, she can change it by herself and not wait for somebody to help her... I want her to be brave and strong like Lara Croft vs Sleeping Beauty waiting for her prince to come and save her from her long slumber....


For that to happen, I gotta be more like Crush... who's not afraid to let go of his kids so they can learn their way through actual experience and be able to swim back to the EAC on their own...

I am still trying to find my way through this discombobulated world I am in called parenthood...

But I know that there will always be a Marlin in me... I'm sure there is one  in every parent in this world. The one who'd do whatever it takes to find and bring back his kid into his loving fins regardless how many sharks, how many strange creatures that come across his way, how many jelly fish stings he had to go through, no matter how far he had to swim... every parent brave their own treks to the "unknown" just to make sure their little one is safe and sound...

May God bless the hearts of all parents in the world trying to make things better for their kids...

Ok, Courage and Wisdom, please come visit the parent in me :)

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